Are You Really In Love?

It is a very common question, “How can I tell I’m in love?”, but it is not an easy question to answer. Think of all the “handsome and beautiful” stars that break up, hating each other. Think of all the times that a “pretty girl” has cheated, figuring she deserves better. A relationship that is based on something superficial will fail as soon as the smallest test is made of it, to the bitter unhappiness of both involved.

The best relationship is always based on friendship. Best friends can be happy together no matter what, will stay together, would not betray each other. Best friends truly SEEM beautiful to each other. If your friends care what your partner LOOKS like, they are not being great friends. And if your PARTNER cares what you look like, they are not caring much about you.

We all change as we get older. We all sag, we all wrinkle, we all gain weight, we all get flabby. It’s a normal part of life. If you obsess over what you look like, and make that a key factor in your self esteem, you are going to be miserable. However if you take pride in what you ARE, then you will always be satisfied and have something to treasure.

It’s Love If:

• You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You’re more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
• You find her the most beautiful. Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she’s unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.
• You see a future together & You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you’re even thinking about marrying her.
• You want to spend each and every second in your life with her.
• You introduce her to your family as it becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.
• You include her in all your plans. Whether you’re going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she’s not there, you can’t get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick “I miss you” phone call. Of course, you don’t tell your buddies.
• You are more romantic. All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
• You always take her side. If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.
• She makes you want to be a better man. She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you’d do anything to make her happy.
• You catch yourself thinking about how much fun you have made with her.
• You care about her more than you care about yourself.
• You can’t stop thinking about her, and you desperately want to spend as much time as possible with her.
• You want to spend the rest of your life with that person, despite their weaknesses.